Telling Yourself the Truth

This will be the first of several posts, many will reflect my own testimony while making application to the general audience. We are in a day where truth is hard to find. The foundation for this series of posts is found in two concepts: Jesus is the Truth (John 14:6), and He said that we shall know the truth, and the truth shall make us free (John 8:32).

This introductory post to this series will not start out as a feel-good post, but we have to know the worst of ourselves before we can get to the best. Our best is not so great. Romans 3:10 says that not a single one of us is good. Isaiah 53:6 says that we all are like sheep who have gone astray. Isaiah 64:6 compares our righteous deeds to filthy rags. That’s a real self-esteem booster, right?

What do we do with this horrible truth? Accept it, then find out the alternative. The alternative is that Romans 10:9-10 gives the remedy: confess with your mouth Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, then you shall be saved. This turn from your sin to His righteousness changes your identity. You who were dead in your trespasses and sins are now alive (Ephesians 2:1). You are now God’s child, a joint-heir with Christ, justified, sanctified, redeemed, and a long list of other things. When you accept the initial truth and seek God, God changes the narrative.

This song powerfully explains the truth about us when we are in Christ. Let the truth speak louder than the truth. May the truth of this song sink deeply into your spirit.

Tips on Church Change

If you’re reading this from a church member’s standpoint, you might be thinking, “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.” My observation in some churches is that the people don’t want to move the corpse because it’s broken; they just want to keep trying to resuscitate what has been dead for years. Although change is not something some of us handle well, it can be done well and for the right reasons. With that said, let’s look at some things I have learned about change in almost 24 years of church work.

Don’t change something for change sake! Have a purpose! Many pastors and staff members get a little too happy about wanting to do new things. If the reason for change is simply because you want to, tell yourself no, pull your big boy pants up, and wait on God.

Let circumstances drive the change and the pace of the change. For example, if you are having to pull out chairs every week to accommodate people, it might be time for another service option. Don’t add an additional weekend service just to build a resume. When I was in my first full-time worship ministry, the church had 3 keyboardists all playing the same thing. I was in a church where the pastor would throw you under the bus rather than stand up for his staff, so I awaited the right time to do something about it. December 2008 brought great choir growth, so much that two keyboards had to be removed. I called the lady who donated them, and she wanted them back. I contacted the two ladies who played them, and they would rather see the choir grow than play the keyboard unnecessarily. The circumstance drove the change.

Have the trust of the people! It is true that people don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care. If they don’t trust you, they won’t follow you two feet from where they are standing. In his leadership books, John Maxwell has written frequently about building relationships with the influencers. I’m not talking about sucking up to people but building genuine relationships. I can attest to the fact that people have followed me many places because I first cared about them as human beings.

Teach the church through the change! Pastor John Houston of Point Harbor Church in Chesapeake, Virginia is a prime example of one who taught the church through the change. Nearly half the church left initially, but the growth far exceeded those who could not embrace the change. I heard him preach once about how he wept with some who left because of long relationships they had from when he had previously served on staff. Through every season, he gave biblical basis for the change. The church that once had 200 in attendance has nearly 1,000.

These things do not come without a little resistance, but be sure people will be more resistant to your selfish agenda than biblical change. Change is a part of the Christian life if growth is going to take place. In fact, the Christian life begins with the change Christ makes and continues as we are sanctified. It will not stop until we enter our Heavenly Home. May your end goal be to help people enter a relationship with Christ who grow to the point of helping others enter that relationship. Let the Bible be your foundation and Christ your focus. He will take care of the rest!


Most every day, I spend time listening to issues people are facing and first provide a caring and empathetic presence. People often want someone to listen and care before they want advice. The resounding theme I find with people is that they are not just experiencing one difficulty. They are often being bombarded by multiple problems. Many feel there is no end in sight.

We have all been there. I am facing some circumstances right now where I am praying for miracles. I know that there is no way there will be a breakthrough apart from the power of God doing the impossible. However, I am clinging to His promises and power. 

For those who feel like you are being bombarded, here are some verses from the Bible to help you know that God will bring you to the other side better than you were before.

“We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed; For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison,” (‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭4:8-9, 17‬ ‭ESV‬‬).

Notice there is a difference between the way we feel and reality. We must cling to the reality of who God is and what He is doing. Our feelings will doom us. We need to choose God’s perspective and await a miracle. He will bombard hell on our behalf. Glory to God!!!!!

Praying for Your Judas

We all have someone who has betrayed us. It may be a coworker, spouse, parent, sibling, “best friend”, etc. It is interesting that the one who betrayed Jesus was hand-picked by Jesus to be one of the twelve. It is also interesting that the betrayer was Jesus’ treasurer. In certain churches, I have learned to watch out for church treasurers. Anyway… Jesus chose Judas, knowing well that Judas would be the betrayer who would lead to His death. Jesus also knew that His death and resurrection would be the only way to provide salvation and forgiveness to all who will place their faith and trust in Him.

So what do we do with the Judases of our life? Hold a grudge? Remain bitter? Neither option is helpful. Jesus told us to pray for our enemies. Getting started hurts. I mean I would rather make myself throw up than do that. Over time, God changes my heart.

Who is your Judas? Are you ignoring the bitterness? Quit it! You will be in bondage to the bitterness until you follow the formula of Jesus in Matthew 5:44. Find the release that comes from praying for those who hate you and betray you. You will come out being the bigger person.

Crazy Prayers

Have you ever prayed for a particular thing or in a particular way, only to stop and think that it is crazy? Been there and done that! Many times! As a pastor, I pray brave and bold prayers that are far beyond man’s ability.

The Bible contains many prayers. Some people may read those prayers and think that it was okay for Paul or some other servant of God to pray. What is wrong with us praying these same prayers if they are genuine. I’m not talking about going through a repetitious ritual. I am talking about truly praying these things from your heart to the Lord.

In 2001, I was introduced to the prayer of Jabez. Only two verses of Scripture mention this individual, but he prayed a powerful prayer. First Chronicles 4:10 reads, “Jabez called out to the God of Israel: ‘If only You would bless me, extend my border, let Your hand be with me, and keep me from harm, so that I will not cause any pain.’ And God granted his request.”

You may read this prayer and think, “What is so crazy about this prayer?” Jabez is asking God to expand his influence. This is a prayer of vision. The thing God asks in return is, “Can I trust you with more territory? Will you be faithful in the little things? If so, then I will expand your territory.”

Whatever stage you may find yourself, don’t lose hope. Don’t get up the vision God put within you. Let it be stirred and challenged. Dream big. Pray big. Then watch God honor that prayer as you obey the steps He lays out for you. Now it’s time to do some more crazy praying!

Scathing Reviews

Have you ever gotten a nasty letter, email, text, or phone call? I believe most, if not all, of us have. We received one of those at work recently. We sat down to evaluate if we could have done anything better in the situation since we typically go above and beyond as we have in this case. We noted a few areas of improvement, but we also noted that some of the expectations in the letter were too high.

It hit home because a few sentences related to this individual’s thoughts about me. The individual said I was too laid-back and of no help. I was bothered by the remarks, but I began to realize that I cannot help everyone. I am limited as a human being. The devil wanted to upset me by one remark when God has used me to help a good number of people. I stopped to pray for this individual. I have been where this person is. I went to one counselor who was not very helpful while the next one was just what I needed. I did not fault the first counselor. God has used him to help others, but his background was not as beneficial to me.

The next time you receive some scathing remarks or criticism, be willing to improve where needed but also know that you will not be able to help everyone. Someone else will come along and potentially meet the need better. Criticism from others does not define you. Let that release you from unnecessary bondage!

When Your Pastor Works 2+ Jobs

Until 2014, I had no clue of what it meant for a pastor or church staff member to work more than one job. I was full-time with a decent salary in every church I served. When I found myself separated with divorce in sight, things changed. I found a few churches that would hire me part-time for music, but I had to find another job to function. I began to learn what many pastors have experienced for years – the struggle of balancing ministry and work. What does life look like for these pastors?

Their work lunch break becomes time for church work. When I was pastoring the church plant, I often took my lunch break in a restaurant where I had my Bible, a note pad, and resources to study. I also planned the church’s worship music, so I would send it to our guitarist. I would also make other church contacts during that time. It didn’t happen every day, but it was a common occurrence.

Their nights and weekends are spent preparing for church, often taking time away from family. While some think sermon preparation only takes minutes, it takes hours if you want to organize thoughts and present them in a way that will connect with people.

They have to say no to things that will often offend people. Many still expect pastors to visit shut-ins, hospitals, attend Sunday School class parties and other events when their primary source of income will not allow them to do so.

I hope this gives you a glimpse into the struggle it is for pastors who have to work other jobs to support a family while trying to lead their congregations in a Christ-honoring way. They want to give their all for Jesus, but work, church, and family have them pulled in multiple directions. Some churches hire pastors with the expectation that he and his family will do it all. They may want to, but they cannot realistically do so.

Whether your pastor is full-time or bivocational (working two jobs), pray for our pastor. Your prayers and support will mean more than you will ever know.

Broad or Narrow?

When I decided to blog again, I was faced with some questions I had to answer. Was I going to change the focus of the blog? Was I going to target a specific audience, or was I going to paint with a broad brush? After having over 1,600 followers on the old blog, was I going to try to rebuild and regain a large audience like that or be content if the audience was smaller? I decided to go broad and narrow.

My writing style tends to lean on the encouraging side with the occasional rant that challenges status quo Christianity. If you want someone who will crusade on preferential issues or controversial doctrinal stances, you don’t have to look far to see them. In my broad-narrow approach, you will find me crusading one thing – the Lord Jesus Christ.

Some may ask why I don’t spend time hard-hitting some of the hot topics in evangelical Christianity. I will be glad to tell you. It is not that I don’t hold conservative stances. I have friends on both sides – some who see me as too conservative and others who see me as not conservative enough. I would much rather develop relationships with people and have civil discussions than dogmatically get in someone’s face and lose my chance to share the most important thing of all – Jesus loved you enough to die for your sins and give eternal life to all who would place their faith and trust in Him. I would call that broad and narrow. I’m not going to limit myself to only those who believe like me, but I will be driven in what I do by the great love of the Lord Jesus.

As I close this post, I want to ask some questions and make a plea to you. The question: Does proving yourself right or strongly conservative mean more to you than the souls of people? Jesus never said that a lost world would know we are Christians by how we will vote at the next denominational conference or whether we will boycott what we don’t like. He said they will know we are His disciples if we have love for one another (John 13:35). My plea is this – make Jesus the most important thing! He promised to draw people to Himself if we lift Him up. Let’s get to our real job – lifting up Jesus (narrow) for all to see and know (broad).

Sunday Crash and Burn

It didn’t take me long as a guy in ministry to learn what the “Sunday crash and burn” is. Twenty years ago, I typically led a Sunday morning service, afternoon choir rehearsal, and Sunday night service. Back then, Sunday night was almost as involved as the morning except with fewer in attendance. Even with the nap on Sunday afternoon, the crash still hit. The worst I ever experienced it was in my first ministry here in the area where I currently live. I would get to the church at 8:30 to do a sound check, 9:45 Sunday School (sometimes I taught), 10:45 worship service, eat lunch, get the kids down for a nap, return to the church around 3:15 to unlock the building, 4:00 choir rehearsal, 5:00 Life Group (which I led), then 6:00 evening service. At that time, I rarely had time for a nap. By 8:00, the body ache was kicking in. Ibuprofen was my friend. Even with one service now, I still crash. Why is that?

I believe everyone experiences a certain rush in a level of intense work. Those in the medical field feel the rush and pressure of saving lives and doing all they can in emergency situations. Those in law enforcement experience a similar thing. As people in ministry, we too feel a sense of urgency. We want to help rescue souls. We invest our blood, sweat, and tears into prayer and preparation. The adrenaline kicks in on Sundays or at other times we minister. But what happens when we come off that mountain? We crash!

I believe this is what happened to Elijah on Mount Carmel in I Kings 18. Here he was with all the prophets of Baal. Elijah was receiving instructions from God that would lead to a major miracle in Scripture. He was surrounded by these prophets of Baal who were desperately cutting themselves to prove who was the bigger power – their god or the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob. God revealed himself there, and Elijah crashed.

Some are so quick to criticize Elijah for this. His weakness after this victorious moment led to his fear of Jezebel. Many preachers are quick to tell Elijah to put on his big boy pants and be a man, when Elijah was demonstrating the weakness that all of us have when we expend our energy.

The work of those in ministry is an intense spiritual work. I don’t know that I can explain it well after two decades of it. I don’t know that my friends in ministry can either. But I do know that we can relate.

So, what do we do? It is important to care for ourselves. Get rest. Stay hydrated. Savor family time. Stay spiritually fed. Be constant in prayer. Stay in awe of Jesus. Don’t isolate. Everyone needs a Sabbath day of rest. EVERYONE! Rearrange your schedule and take it. If you don’t take proper measures to care for yourself, you could so easily become another ministry casualty. Stay close to the feet of Jesus and allow Him to restore your soul over and over again.

Church Direction: Will of Man or Will of God?

The direction of the church is a sensitive topic. If 100 people attend, you have at least 100 different opinions about how the church should function. Should it have pews or chairs? Stained glass? Contemporary, traditional, or blended music? Sunday School or small groups? Then comes the bigger schism – should the direction be set by committees, the congregation at large, or the pastor? I can already sense the steam rising with some of you who are reading this. While God should be setting the direction for His people to follow, this is not always the case.

This post is sparked by a church that recently exercised its will over God’s. The church has a history of heartless tradition funded by old money. After years of a pastor who pacified the people, it voted to be ushered into a new era. With lip service, they vocalized their desire for change. When change arrived, it was resisted to the point it decided to vote out one of its staff members.

This story is all too common. The worship of Christ is tossed aside over a preference to go through the motions that have been done for years. The commission of Christ is ignored for the “let’s-hire-somebody-to-do-what-we-are-commanded-to-do-then-complain-about-it-and-exercise-our-lame-committee-authority-to-go-back-to-business-as-usual” mentality. Too often (considering once is too often), I see this over and over again. I gets the calls and the messages for prayer from the ones who gave their lives to answer the call of God, only to be slapped in the face by those who profess to know Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior. This must end!

The will of man is ruining a lot of churches. It is being exercised by pastors and church members alike. It is so much easier to exercise than taking the biblical method of seeking the Scriptures and praying for the Holy Spirit to reveal the specific plan of God for HIS church.

To those who have been wounded by the will of man, I weep with you. I have been one of the wounded because senior leadership wanted “better” or “the powers that be” couldn’t stand that Jesus was going to call the shots and they did not like the fact that I was going to execute God’s will.

To those who love the power, please repent! Christ didn’t die so you could vote down progress in your church. The will of man has deterred many souls from being saved. I would hate to think my disobedience kept someone from walking in God’s will.

By nature, we are selfish people. Choosing our will is easy. Discerning and implementing God’s will is tough. The bottom line is we will have to answer to God for our choices. Let’s be guilty of striving to do God’s will no matter the resistance.