Three People We Need in Life

I’m not sure what crossed your mind when you read the title. I don’t know if you were receptive, or if you are one who is all about the self-reliance, letting no one into your life but you. If that is the last, I must warn you that isolation is worse. Just saying!Anyway, we have three types of people we need in our life.

Everyone needs someone older and wiser in his or her life. I have always been blessed with those people. In the Bible, Paul was that to Timothy. I have been blessed with both men and women who gave sound advice to this young, struggling boy. Among my favorites was a lady named Myrtle Griggs. Myrtle went to be with the Lord nearly three years ago. I still wish I could pick up the phone and call her, but God has blessed me with several others who provide a similar level of wisdom.

Everyone also needs an encourager. Scripture tells of a man named Barnabas, whose name meant “son of consolation (encouragement)”. The world is full of negative people. Find one or more who will speak life into you. It’s a blessing to have a cheerleader in your life who will see your strengths and potential and praise those qualities.

Finally, everyone needs someone to correct you when necessary – one who will teach and rebuke. Scripture says, “Faithful are the wounds of a friend”. A true friend will speak up when you are about to screw up. That is real love.

I can’t take credit for these thoughts. Someone from Twitter commented, and I couldn’t help but share these with my blogging audience. If you do not have each of these three people in your life, find them. They may be at work, church, or in your family. Wherever they are, humble yourself enough to benefit from the contribution they can make in your life. You’ll be glad you did.

About the Ministry

“Wounded Yet Healed” is a writing ministry of Matthew Winters. Matthew surrendered his life to Christ in 1987 and to the call to ministry in 1997. He has served in the areas of worship, discipleship, senior adults, lead pastor, and church planter. Matthew is now a shepherd with Standing Stone Ministry, providing confidential care to pastors and ministry leaders.

Matthew knows what it means to be “wounded yet healed”. He has experienced the trials of ministry, divorce, and having to rebuild his life and ministry. Matthew’s desire is to help those who have been wounded in the fight become healed by the power of the Lord Jesus Christ.

Matthew has been married to Jennifer since September 11, 2015, and they parent a blended family of 7 children. They reside in upstate South Carolina.

Family picture after dedicating our youngest two in the worship service

Don’t Cry Out Loud?

Cue the music. If you’re drawing closer to 40 like I am, then you remember the song. I believe it was Melissa Manchester who recorded. Now cuing the younger people googling this ancient song.

Crying out loud…is it a sign of weakness? Is it really that bad? Many have stigmatized it, but some actually appreciate it. There are some crazy people out there (like me) who cry out loud and appreciate those who do. Why? Because I appreciate vulnerability. People who hide their raw selves can be found on every corner.

Our Savior wept. At a moment when He had the power to raise Lazarus from the dead, He wept over the death of His friend. Think about it! If the King of Glory wept, don’t we have permission to process our emotions in such a way?

What about processing our emotions like this in the presence of others? Isn’t that showing weakness? Yes! But doesn’t Scripture say that we are made strong in our weakness?

As we begin a new week, I want you to consider something – How effective is your tough facade? You may be strutting around acting like Superman or Wonder Woman, but people are likely seeing your struggle. Get this! If you were open about it, you might gain strength and help others in the process. How awesome would that be?!?

As I close, I will spare you having to look up this song on YouTube. Here it is:

The Journey Begins

This is not my first rodeo with blogging. For over four years, I wrote a blog that was, in the end, called “Honest Thoughts from a Pastor”. God made it clear in the final months that the blog had to go.

After some time to pray and reboot, you are reading a blog that I pray will encourage those who have been wounded in the fight. We all have scars. We all, like Jacob in his encounter with what is believed to be the pre-incarnate Christ, walk with a limp. Your scars or limp may be from addiction, divorce, or some form of abuse. Whatever it is, there is hope for you.

As I write, I will write about difficulties and scars. But I won’t stop there. God doesn’t want you to stay in your difficulties. He wants you to triumph. He wants you to use those difficulties to help others.

While I pray that many in vocational ministry will be reading, I long to minister to the overall body of Christ as well as to those who have yet to follow Christ. When all is said and done, I can’t wait to read and hear the testimonies of readers who have been “wounded yet healed”.

Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton