Grieving Losses

When COVID-19 hit and places began closing, it was prime time for the devil to prey upon me. As I mentioned in a previous post, the devil loves to attack when we are isolated. The attack took on a different twist. I was bombarded with tons of past memories. These were memories that hurt. Memories that caught me off guard. What was I to do with these memories?

I asked the Lord to show me what was going on. Why would these old memories hit me now? As I was trying to make sense of all this, one thing came to mind – I had not grieved some major losses in my life.

When people think of grief, they mainly think about the death of a loved one. While this kind of grief is valid, we often overlook other types of loss. We lose friendships, other relationships, jobs, money, social status, etc. I was left with processing grief for many things I lost – a marriage, a daily relationship with my kids, ministry as I knew it, people who no longer saw my calling as valid, etc. Some of these losses had been left ungrieved for almost 7 years. Now I know the freedom of having walked through the grief process of some of these things.

What losses have you experienced in life? Have you grieved those losses? If not, you will be stuck until you do. You will carry that baggage into chapter after chapter of your life. Grief is simultaneously painful and liberating. It’s time to grieve! This may sound odd, but you’ll be glad you grieved.

4 responses to “Grieving Losses”

  1. I still grieve the loss of my mentor and friend. I grieve the loss of my old church, the only place I ever “fit”. I’ve felt like for the past 5 years I am looking for something I once had, but no longer can find it. Not sure if anything will ever feel quite like what I once had.

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    1. I can connect with that to some degree. It is easy for us to develop emotional attachments to the places and moments that feel good. When they are absent from our life, we have to grieve the losses and seek to be present in the now moments to develop new connections with the new places and things in life. It is difficult, and I’m still working on it…finding the good in the now.

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      1. Yup. And I always have to remember that we tend to view the past with rose colored glasses. Maybe “the good old days” were actually not as perfect as I remember them. Contentment is a tricky thing, but most rewarding when we learn the secret of it!

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      2. Your last sentence is so accurate!


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